Saturday, April 21, 2012
Is it Okay for Married Couple To be having Anal Sex
All married Christian couples eventually come to "that topic:" that is the question, is anal sex a sin in a Christian marriage? Is anal sex ok for married Christian sexuality? Many churches have condemned anal sex as a sin, but why? Does the Bible say that it is?
No, the Bible does not say that anal sex is a sin for married Christian couples. Despite Old Testament purity laws regarding periods, there are no limitations put on anal sex as a part of Christian sexuality in a marriage.
So, if it is not blatantly a sin, is anal sex OK in a Christian marriage?
Let's first consider how it might be wrong.
The bible spells out many sins. God’s word tells us that adultery is a sin.It is even a commandment.
Leviticus 18:20 (King James Version)
20Moreover thou shalt not lie carnally with thy neighbour’s wife, to defile thyself with her.
Exodus 20 (King James Version)
1And God spake all these words, saying,
14Thou shalt not commit adultery.
His word also tells us fornication and bestiality are sins.
1 Corinthians 6:18 (King James Version)
18Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
1 Thessalonians 4:3 (King James Version)
3For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication:
1 Corinthians 7:2 (King James Version)
2Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
Leviticus 20:15-16 (King James Version)
15And if a man lie with a beast, he shall surely be put to death: and ye shall slay the beast.
16And if a woman approach unto any beast, and lie down thereto, thou shalt kill the woman, and the beast: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.
The bible doesn’t, however, spell it out for anal sex. There are no specific verses that say that anal sex between a married couple is a sin. There are verses that deal with homosexuality, but not a married couple. I believe that if it were a sin, God would have included it in with the others He mentioned. But since the bible is silent on this issue, there is a debate among Christians regarding this.
This is something that you and your spouse will need to discuss and pray about. The Holy Spirit will convict you as to what is best for your marriage. If one of you has a history of deep porn use, where anal sex was depicted, then it’s possible that engaging in anal sex could become a slippery slope for you, and lead back into your old, sinful lifestyles. You’ll need to ask yourself: Will doing this cause me to lust for more or for others? Will it remind me of the pornography and cause me to revert back to that? While participating in anal sex may be okay for one couple, it may cause another couple to stumble.
Just because something is permissible, doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s beneficial to you. There are precautions and health concerns that you need to be aware of. Cleanliness is important, and so is being gentle and slow. I have heard a couple stories from women who say that they have become damaged from having anal sex, and now suffer from incontinence. I have heard more stories from women who say they have participated in anal sex with their husbands for years and have had no side effects at all from it.
Some couples may be interested in anal sex or anal play, but after weighing all the pros and cons, decide that it isn’t edifying for their marriage. I respect and understand this. I humbly ask for that same respect in the decisions that my husband and I have made. May God bless your marriage!